Sometimes it’s hard to talk about the things no one wants to talk about. But that’s why it’s so important to talk about them! Mental health is such an important facet to our daily lives. Things can be going great one day and then the next, it’s easy to feel like the weight of the world is falling on top of you.
For me, the biggest block I have is being a People Pleaser. I worked on it a bit in my Life Coaching with Lindsay Preston last year, but it’s not something where you can just wake up and one day be different. Humans are complex, fascinating and often times downright confusing AF.
There’s one thing that keeps coming up for me lately and that is this, you teach people how to treat you. My mother has been saying this quote for years, I’m sure Oprah had something to do with it. It applies to every relationship in our lives though! Back when I dated wrong person after wrong person, I realized my self worth was more important than what another boy thought of me or how he treated me.
But once you’re out of the dating scene and married to an amazing guy, you realize this quote also applies to every person you encounter. It doesn’t matter who the person is, your mother, father, friend, co-worker, tenant, a stranger–it’s up to you to figure out your personal boundaries, set your limits of what feels good and what is not right. You are a grown woman (or man) and only you can call those shots. If you’re around someone who makes you feel like crap, that you walk on egg shells with, or that you simply cannot be your authentic self, why then are you wasting your precious life with that person? You do not have to be everyone’s friend. You can be kind, but you do not have to live your life in a way that will please anyone else but yourself.
I may be writing this post for myself, some sort of therapy of sorts, but I thought, per usual, why I love writing on this public forum, that maybe someone else needed to hear these words too. It’s no one else’s fault that you’re going through or feeling what you’re feeling, if you have not changed your situation or crafted a new way of being. What you allow will continue; you must learn to shift and change your circle, you and only you are in control of what you consume. The good, the bad, the ugly.
Sometimes we get stuck in our old ways, habits, the way things have always been. But I call BS. It’s 2020 and if you’re unhappy, that’s on you. It’s on me. If you don’t respect yourself enough to allow only positive love, energy, brightness, happiness, truth, and fulfillment maybe we need to check our price tag like this quote below. I need to channel more Lizzo, that’s fore sure. I know my heart is solid gold and when it’s been mistreated, it’s my own fault. I can’t be mad at other people because I expected more from them. I need to learn to expect more from myself and be more truthful with my voice and speak my heart.
Is your stress level a bit high? Mine is. Hence the workouts, the acupuncture, the eating well…it’s all a juggling act and I know it’s hard!! But don’t quit. If you’re feeling off, take a look at this little chart. It’s a great visual! I swear by my journal especially when my mind is rattling and I can’t seem to catch a full breath. Soul check–get off social media for a bit.
I am also loving to start my day with some amazing affirmations. This was the other day- I am ready.
If you’re feeling down, as always be sure to talk with someone! I am not a Dr, but I know it’s not easy to live in this digital age. Everyone seems so instagram perfect and shiny and new—but it’s false. We are all a little (or a lot) broken and most of us are doing the very best we can each day. Know your self worth, create your boundaries and stick to them. Focus on what you can increase and watch for tremendous growth in 2020.
Peace, love & strength to you all!