I’ve been a few weeks out of my Life Coaching experience with the amazingly talented Lindsay Preston, and I wanted to give a bit of an update. I wanted to let myself absorb back into my ‘new normal’ and WOWZA. That’s about the only ‘word’ that comes to mind when I think about my life right now.
If I am being honest, I have been having a bit of trouble putting words on paper (or blog) for how I feel. I know that it was not a little pill or a magic wand, so I understand why I do feel so different, (in a good way too!) but it’s hard to truly explain the awesome that is, when we take the time to work on ourselves.
Transparent moment:
2 years ago, my husband was turning 40, we were running this newer company with our real estate, changing everything from one thing to another. I had a 2 year old, a 4 year old, poor relationships with my family and his, and I felt so lost. I look back at photos and though I was in great physical health (still trying to work back to that bod!) really, I was so sad. I felt like I had no control over anything (hello, we don’t always have control Jenn, and that’s ok!) but also I was leaning in trying to “find Jesus” and be saved or something. {It didn’t happen.} I learned to just trust and wait the process of life, and honestly just keep going. Through a lot of communication, life did get better, but fast forward to last year, and again, I would have these moments where I just felt paralyzed and couldn’t figure out “WHAT IS MY PURPOSE?!” I’d have these highs and lows of how great and amazing life was, and then crash, something bad would happen and I’d falter and stumble and feel like I failed at life. Dramatic much? Yes. But the truth is, in my 38 years here on earth, life is exactly that. There’s going to be a whole lotta good that comes to us, and things to celebrate; life is meant to be beautiful and abundant. But we wouldn’t understand how amazing it is, if we didn’t have some bad.
With Lindsay’s life coaching, she can’t take away our problems or solve terrible situations. What she did do for me though, was give me the tools to help me when those bad times arise. The times when I start to slip or feel not good enough. The moments when I start to doubt myself or start to snap at my husband or kids for really “no apparent reason.” I don’t blame my hormones, the weather, the food, my lack of workouts any more, nope. It’s me. And it’s not for “no apparent reason.” There’s good reason why you are yelling, crying, feeling so overwhelmed. I’ve also started asking myself, “What is this teaching me?” When something is going wrong, or I’m experiencing a trial of sorts. I used to hear that phrase and roll my eyes and now I live by it.
So what do I do? (note it happened yesterday & again today)
I stop everything as fast as I can. I still do what needs to get done, but then you guys, I mean it, you just need to press pause.
I get quiet. Even if it’s in a room locking your dogs and kids out of it for 5 minutes. Talk out loud to yourself, to a friend, to your mom. If you have more time, grab a journal. Writing was always so wonderful for me, but for whatever reason I abandoned it. Finding this tool again has been LIFE CHANGING. Get whatever it is out of that system of yours. You don’t have to blog publicly or video your feelings, if you don’t want to, but the important thing I have learned is to get to the root of your problem. For me, it’s so powerful to use that tool of journaling to figure out what is really making me so upset. I give my IMG (inner mean girl) a voice. Let her be heard and allow yourself to feel. Then I move on!
How?? Well I will say that I went through a life-changing process to release past emotions and blocks. These were things that I didn’t quite realize that were holding me back from becoming my true authentic self. Again, it was not easy, but once I devoted the time, had the support from my coach Lindsay and close friends/family and especially my husband, I realized the sky was the limit. The best part? I have this process tucked into my back pocket for the rest of my life. At any point I am feeling stuck, emotionally stagnated or like I need to get over it, I will repeat the lessons I’ve learned.
I’ve said it before, but I’ve read the books. I’ve listened to the podcasts. I have watched the You Tube videos and followed all the people posting all of the things. It’s not a quick fix, but the tools learned in the 21 day Life Luvers Course and then the Unstoppable package, have truly done so much good. I’m able to commit to my goals, stay on track and not lose sight no matter how hard things get. I’m still counting my “wins” as Lindsay calls them. Yesterday, they were as big as getting myself out of the ‘funk’ I felt as I felt myself slipping. Normally that would have taken me days you guys!! Another win was when my husband came home, he had a bit of a panic/freak out moment of all the things not so great happening in real estate. I’m talking, legit, problems. I calmly heard him, and the old me would have taken it personally, been upset, defensive, argued back, but instead I listened. I heard him, let him have his moment, and we moved on. I was always such a stress case, the one who would worry so very much about every little thing, and now? I cast the worries—aka I write them out, and write some more. And then let them go. I’ve become so connected with the universe and the divine, I no longer have the uptight feeling in my chest. No heart palpitations. No impulse need to buy things. It’s blissful. It’s work, but once you get to this other side, you want to work so very hard to stay here. Even today I had some things come flying at me, but I knew I needed to stop, breathe, write, workout, and I totally pumped myself up with Rachel Hollis and then GOT MY WORK DONE. The perfectionist in me likes to put things off for fear of doing it right or getting it wrong, but I just dove in. Checked off the list. [I learned all of this through my work with Lindsay!!!!!]
I am finally at the point where I can lay my head on the pillow knowing that I did everything I possibly could have done for the day, and that is enough for me. I am enough for me. It may have taken 38 years to feel this calm and intentional presence, but it’s so worth all of the work. We’ll spend so much money and time on makeup, workouts, fast fix meals, toys, gadgets, tv shows, accessories, clothes, alcohol etc. But we won’t spend time or money on fixing, healing and working on ourselves. However, when we invest in ourselves, everything changes. Everything changes for the better.
If you’re still feeling like everyone else has found “it” and you’re running on E, take a chance on yourself and jump in on Lindsay’s next round of Life Luvers LIVE starting on Monday 9/9. You can use my code JENN20 to get $20 off!! I promise, it’s $77 worth every penny!! At the very least, please head to her site (www.LindsayEPreston.com) to take her coaching assessment to see if you’d be good to work together so you can get in on that live group. The value of the group coaching is HUGE with this, as you will feed off of the other ladies energy and momentum will skyrocket you to that next level you are looking for.
I am in no way shape or form getting paid from writing this, nor am I getting a commission off of anyone who signs up. I’m just a girl who loves to blog. I love life. I love being happy, and I love helping others find their way. Just knowing maybe one lady will click her way to success, or love, or happiness from reading my heart here on this old blog, I know I’m living into my purpose.
There happens to be another course after Unstoppable, but at this time I am taking a break to focus on our business, the kids going back to school and my final year of being a “stay at home mom.” I know that Lindsay’s door is always open and I know I’ll be taking advantage of her one on one calls (I have one scheduled this Saturday!!) to work through some blocks I see happening in my business. I am forever grateful my life has lead me here, and I truly wish each and every one of my readers this feeling of bliss.
