Well, 8 days in and ish started getting hard.
I was able to keep up with most of my coaching work on a daily basis, despite going away to Toronto. Luckily we had some down time in our gorgeous suite in the hotel. I plugged in my headphones and made it work! It’s so so easy to quit when things get hard, but I promised myself to focus these 21 days and get it done!
My overall goal is to create a better work/life blend and to not be so stressed out and feel so chaotic. I don’t like the stress that it creates and neither does my body! I absolutely love my life, but I don’t like feeling spun out of control.
So how am I doing with that? Ehhhh to be totally transparent and honest, I don’t feel like I’m doing that great. I yelled Tuesday. (So much for being calm amongst the chaos). I felt like that meme where Mary Poppins is all, “Let’s go!” and then 20 minutes later Batman voice yells “LET’S GOOOOOO!!” It was a crazy early morning as Bradley had his final “Helper Day” at preschool, which I still had to buy snacks/drinks for AND I had his parent conference at 8:30. Since I had made a choice to go to a favorite workout class the night before at 6pm, it made for a later bedtime. I solo parent on some evenings as per my husband’s schedule, and for the last 6 years, I pretty much let the kids’ dictate my routine. Well, since I’ve started putting ME first a few times more, it’s an adjustment for ALL. I sometimes feel counter-productive, as in maybe if I just do what is always best for kids and husband, then I can keep the peace…but the reality is, I feel like I’ve woken up to a new light. What if I die tomorrow? Did I get to do what I wanted to do? I get that being a parent is all about selfless-ness and giving, giving, giving even when you don’t feel like giving any more, but I also see the need to fill my cup.
I used to think filling my cup was a once in awhile thing. But I’m realizing I do need to give more attention to me, a lot more. The “Do You List” has been SO helpful. It’s been eye opening because I’ve noticed that I don’t feel guilty when I do the dishes, fold the laundry, clean the rooms, scrub the toilets, braid the hair, brush the teeth, iron the work clothes, cook the eggs, do the grocery shopping, prepare the meals, walk the dog, work on real estate, cuddle…but when I consistently do things that make me, just Jenn, not anyone else, happy, I feel bad. So I am learning to push through that uncomfortable feeling and see where it takes me. ** This is what Lindsay would refer to as your IMG (Inner Mean Girl) I didn’t think I had any (haha!) but once I listened to her videos, took notes and reflected I realized I am so a people pleaser and then some.
I’ve created my daily habit of meditating 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes at night. I find the morning to be harder than night–I actually love listening to a meditation and falling into a nice quiet sleep…I am also noticing perhaps I would do better with a mid-day meditation? I may play around with this. My morning routine is not exactly pristine. My body is fighting me for sleep!! (I’m blaming the uber hard workouts I do some days!) Either way, I am seeing the need for it. Slowing down is helping me A LOT!
I’ve also started saying a daily mantra: I live a calm and intentional life. (I’m finding Rachel Hollis’ Start Today Journal methods kind of intertwining here!) Basically, you say things in present tense, as if they’re already happening. There’s a huge brain connection (I’m not getting scientific here, but there’s huge research done on this!) Lindsay does a great job at explaining it in her course, so it’s not all hokey!
So all in all, in just a week I’m noticing huge differences! Even though I felt like I was struggling a bit yesterday (Tuesday) I love that Lindsay has a closed Facebook group where we can share our thoughts. We were to share what we are grateful for, so I did, but I also was real and said how things were getting hard. Her response, “I know you want things to change now, but it’s a process. Just keep showing up like you’re doing (even though you feel overwhelmed I know) and it will get better.” I know that I needed to hear that because I always want to rush things and sometimes, most times, we need to let things go at their own pace and fall into place as they will. I know I’m so, SO hard on myself and I need to lighten up (a lot.)
All amazing things happen outside of our comfort zone, right? Well I am certainly stepping out of mine and cannot wait to see what’s to come. Just don’t quit, right?