TGIF lovies!!
I don’t know about you, but this week tried to kick my butt. Seriously. I am super glad Friday is here so that we can get to the weekend! It continued to snow all week, nothing stuck but my booty is frozen from trying to get the puppy to go outside and I’m so over it!
I am extra excited that our first book club meet up is tonight. We are hitting up the wine bar around the corner from my house and I’m sure that it will be awesome to get out for awhile, chat bout #momlife, girl talk and I’m pretty dorky so I’m sure that we will talk about books too!
I have my list of books I’ve read so far in 2018. This book, Girl Code was book 11 of 52!
I have the hard copy that my girl Lindsay gifted me, but I just never made an effort to pick it up, so I decided to try it on audible and I LOVED it!! I am so glad that I have the hard copy honestly, so that I can go back through from time to time.
Clearly the author had me at her blog/brand, “The Champagne Diet.” You know I love me some celebratory bubbly and if you’re a girly girl like me, her verbiage will speak to you too. She is witty and clever, but it’s not all glitter and champs. She really is a fantastic business woman; there is something powerful about a female entrepreneur. She is also a Master Life Coach and just has so much valuable information to share.
What I loved most about this book were the interviews with other leading ladies. Each gal had her own little story to tell and it’s nice to know we girls are never alone.
As per usual, the English teacher in my comes through and I had several quotes speak to me.
The first quote was, “Her success is not your failure.”
Whoa.
She was referring to those moments where we scroll through social media and find ourselves getting mad or jealous when we see other girls living their best lives. You know, that girl who promotes to the highest level in her company. The bombshell who is flaunting her perfect body on a beach in the Caribbean. Whatever your trigger is, realize that just because she succeeded at something, doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
I guess I had not thought it through like that, but yes! Sometimes I do find myself feeling awful, simply because she’s making a dream come true and I’m probably in day old sweats, 4 day hair and cleaning up poo. Maybe I’m not exactly where I want to be (literally or figuratively!) but that doesn’t mean I’m a failure!
Each of our journeys is so unique and it’s super hard and tempting to compare ourselves to others on social media. The highlight reel is great, but it took a lot of hard work, sacrifice and dedication for these people to get to show off their rewards.
“Why be envious when you can have the same, or not more?”
I feel like that kind of piggybacks off of the first quote. Jealousy comes in all shapes and sizes, but instead of sitting there hating on someone, turn it around and really think about it. What’s stopping you from having what she has? Couldn’t you even have more? There is no limit in life. We can make as much money as we want, there’s certainly enough to go around. Most of these #bossbabes are most likely not choosing #netfilxandchill, so if that’s what you find yourself doing on a weekly basis, maybe it’s time to switch out some habits. That’s what I tell myself when I start seeing posts and feeling less than.
“They don’t serve champagne at pity parties.”
Which leads me to my next favorite quote from this book. Sure, you have a moment where you’re down and not feeling super fabulous. I try to tell myself, it’s ok! Feel what you are feeling, but then get over it. Sitting around moping and crying and doing the whole, “whoa is me” thing doesn’t get us anywhere. Misery loves company, so you’ll attract that low vibe energy and miss out on some amazing opportunities. I love me some champagne, so if I wanna be poppin bottles, I can’t cry too big of a river.
The last thing I took from this book was really what Oprah would call an “Aha moment.” The concept of a “Seasonal purpose vs a life purpose” really resonated with me. Sometimes I get all caught up in “my purpose” and start a freak out session. I dwell on the fact that thousands of dollars were spent on an Undergraduate and Masters Degree to teach here in NY. I taught English for 8 years, but don’t really any desire to go back into that teaching world now. I know that raising our babies and staying home was/is my purpose. As we are nearing the end of that ‘stay at home’ period, I’m starting to really develop a new vision of where I want my life to go and what I’d like to spend my time doing.
This idea of a seasonal purpose just makes so much sense to me. We are evolving creatures and the more we learn, the more we grow. Our minds can take us anywhere and if we place all this pressure on ourselves to only have one purpose, it just sucks the fun out of life. This is my opinion at least; I love knowing that I can keep developing into better versions of me and that as I grow older, my life’s purposes will too.
I haven’t read her other books yet, but I am definitely keeping them in mind! I love a quick listen, and this was a great one to hear. If you’re in direct sales or in business for yourself in any fashion, I highly recommend this book. If you’re not into champagne and some of the couture glitz and glam, I think you could still get something out of this book, if you have an open mind. It clearly spoke to me and I will be flipping through these pages again and again!
Happy reading my friends!