I recently listened to Gabby’s latest book Super Attractor and it was fantastic. I took this quote from it and it truly resonated with me. I think sometimes as grown ups, we forget how to have fun, enjoy ourselves and allow ourselves to feel good. As mamas, we often take care of everyone and everything else before we think about ourselves. It’s so important that we remember!
For me, it was one of THE BIGGEST triggers or “bullet holes” I discovered when working with my life coach. What was? Oh, you know, allowing myself to feel good, or have fun, just for the heck of it. For some reason I create boundaries for myself (I’m still working on it) where I don’t really ‘let loose’ or ‘have fun’ unless others are having fun. Or my work is all done. I have gotten a lot better at letting the ‘guilt’ go and really just focusing on ME at the present time. I really do best when I get a workout in daily, write daily, and take time in the morning to reflect on my goals and dreams, as well as sit in quiet. I journal, spend time looking through devotionals or other inspiring reads. It really helps set my mind right.
What I am learning is that the universe attracts more of what you put out. I’ve always loved the quote, “what you think about, you bring about.” But it’s so true. The more you feel good, that good energy, happy vibe, the more you will attract. If you’re stuck in a sad, lonely, victim mentality–that everyone is out to get you, you’ll simply attract more of that. There’s a always a way out, and it’s to focus on yourself. Do baby steps. Cook a favorite recipe. Go on a walk by yourself. Journal. Figure out what would start those feelings of enjoyment, happiness and ultimately live into that. It will become your life.
I distinctly remember a wine tour my then boyfriend, now husband I and went on. I was so worried and uptight over everyone else enjoying themselves, that honestly I was not having a good time! I’ve done this a lot throughout my life. Part of it is yes, I am a control freak (working on it) and also very in tune with others’ around me and their emotions. (Hello, Empathy is my #1 strength.) Over time I am learning that my happiness has nothing to do with other people and it’s okay for me to feel good, even if others around me don’t, can’t or won’t. It is hard to watched loved ones and friends stew in their own misery, but Joe and I both work very hard at creating a calm, peaceful, happy and joyful life in our home. Sometimes it’s best to just focus on yourself, and pray that others will find ways to feel good too.
What do you do for yourself to feel good?