It has been a crazy fantastic and wild ride, these last 8 years!! We have been tested, pushed to our limits, had our fair share of frustrations…but isn’t that what makes the good parts so good? No one said life would be easy. Marriage is just as much work as everything else in life. Parenting. Jobs. Being healthy. Being happy. Choosing to give your best and do the right thing, even when you may not want to.
I will be as transparent as I can, and say that year 7 was undoubtedly the toughest year. We added a business and with that, our daily routines changed, my role as ‘homemaker turned business woman’ really took off. I struggle daily trying to find the balance of 1950’s housewife (which I LOVE!) and being an entrepreneur (which I also LOVE!)
I will tell you one of my secrets; just don’t quit. I will rest, I will cry if needed, I will sulk momentarily, or throw myself a quick pity party, but then I get right back up and fight for my purpose. I fell in love with my husband 10 years ago, silly kids back then. At 26 I thought I knew it all.
At 36, I can tell you I know nothing!! haha
I know enough, but I don’t know it all.
I know that it’s important to compromise in a marriage, for it to work.
I know that communication is key. Blabbing to others about problems will do nothing, unless you learn to work them out together.
I know that at the end of the day, we are both tired and exhausted, but to go the extra mile and make a fresh warm meal is what my husband needs.
I know that date nights and carving out KID FREE time somehow almost every day is essential to us.
I know that the more that I focus on my husband’s good qualities vs any negative, that is what I will get more of. (he taught me that) No one is perfect, we are human and we are bound to annoy the crap out of each other, but look past the imperfections…like the laundry outside of the hamper, or the toilet paper that needs to be put back on the roll.
I know that putting away the iPhones, ipads, laptops, etc for a little awhile refreshes us and allows us to talk freely without distractions.
I know that one day, when the kids are grown and out of the house, and the dogs are really old, or perhaps no longer with us, we will still have each other. That is why I work as hard on my marriage, if not more, than I do at anything else.
As for our anniversary? We got some amazing news that our perc test passed at the land!!
To celebrate 8 years, we went to one of favorite spots, Pane Vino.
It was nice and warm, the sun was still out and we enjoyed an outside table.
I love this restaurant right on the river. Lobster French!!
For dessert we shared some delicious raspberry creme brulee tasting thing! It was super yummy.
Joe wanted to take a photo of our view…
He gave me a super sweet card with a champagne bottle and inside said let’s celebrate. I kind of giggled thinking well, we are just going to dinner but I guess that’s a celebration?
But then after dinner he drove to the little beach we love and presented me with a gift of champagne flutes!! I still had not caught on what he was doing…
It was a moment later I noticed the Yeti cooler with a bottle of Rosé champagne and our beach blanket.
To say that I was surprised, is an understatement.
It’s the little things that mean the most, isn’t it? Sure the fancy champagne was amazing, but more than that it was the mere thought and efforts he put into this little beach excursion.
He told me that I gave him the idea; the other day we were discussing anniversaries and how other couples don’t do a lot. Maybe a card, maybe not. It’s not about spending the money but it’s really about the effort.
Last year we did go back to where we said “I do” but neither of us put in much more work than that…and honestly? Shame on us. You can’t expect a marriage to run well on its own. One thing I have learned is that one of you may be putting in more effort than the other, but that will always ebb and flow.
So my advice to any married couple is, take the chances and do the spontaneous. We both realized that a bottle of champagne, a beach blanket and some music were MORE than amazing. Just us two being goofy and silly–something that can easily be left behind when you’re building a business and raising babies.
So cheers to us.
Cheers to the last year, in particular that shook us, changed us, helped us grow and see how precious a marriage really is.
Cheers to the years ahead.
Cheers to love, faith, and friendship.
I love being your Queen Joseph and I cherish every special moment like this that you create for us.
PS. he did say he thought about taking us to the land, which is ironic because in my letter to him, it said next year we can go click champagne flutes on our foundation of our house. He opted for the beach this year since he knows my soul loves the sand and water.
My best friend, happy anniversary. I love you!