It’s probably not a surprise that I love self-improvement books and thoroughly enjoy reading and listening to authors who preach all about how to better ourselves. Gabby Bernstein is one of my favorites. Even listening to her voice seems to help me breathe better, feel less anxious and I find myself easily becoming centered.
Her newest book Judgement Detox is a good one. It talks about how we are all guilty of judging, (even her) and that we are all coming from one of two places:
LOVE VS FEAR
If you are coming from a place of love, you are welcoming others, circumstances and understanding we are all intertwined. There is no drama, gossiping, feeling victim to, or being upset.
When we come from a place of fear, we are apt to believe certain people are out to get us. We may find ourselves judging one person in particular, and just becoming stressed, sick, or annoyed more often than not.
It’s our birthright to be happy, joyous, blissful. If we are not feeling like this, there is something triggering us. You must take the time and figure it out.
We all have down days, off weeks and just bad months even! But it’s vital to our emotional & mental health to figure out how to get out of that funk. Often times, the breakdown is actually setting us up for the breakthrough.
Let me say that again, if you feel like everything is against you and there’s no end in sight–hang on sister, there is something MONUMENTAL just lurking around the corner. I promise you. You’re not going through all of this, whatever it is, for no reason. Nope. Nah-uh. There is something great and big, even DIVINE in you. Hang on tight and buckle up. See where it takes you, breathe through the journey and know that you’re almost to that ‘next space’ you’re supposed to be. Trust me.
Don’t give up.
I’m saying all of this because a few weeks ago, I was in tears. Upset, crying, frustrated, angry, yelling more than usual…it was bad. Want the honest truth? I started questioning myself on whether or not I should be back at work. I felt so defeated, low, and just that what on earth am I doing feeling…but I stuck with it, breathed through it, cried it out, talked with my husband and close friends and family and I can say that now I am 100% feeling much better. I have a clarity and purpose within me that I didn’t feel then. I would scroll through social media and compare and judge and feel so low.
Now I have a vision, a clear mind and I can definitely say that I feel stronger. I have no desire to run away from my ‘problems’ and am willing to work harder on myself so that I can live my best life. I have so much to give and sometimes we forget how important our role is as a wife and mother. Don’t lose sight of that!
It’s helping that I focus on gratitude. At 11:11 every day I have an alarm on my phone that goes off. I stop what I am doing and say out loud what I am grateful for. Whomever is with me gets to tell me too!! It’s really helpful, especially even when you’re having a heck of a day, and having a hard time finding good in anything–there is always something to be thankful for.
It’s also really magical to view your life from an outsider’s point of view. You probably have everything you once wished for. You may be living a life that other people could only dream of. It’s just really important that we step back and breathe in our moments and realize how special our lives really are. Sometimes when we are in the daily grind, we miss seeing the bigger picture.
If you stumbled across this post, perhaps it was for a good reason. I believe we are all connected and someone wants you to take some times and find the gratitude amongst our crazy world. Everything you are, and everything you have at this exact moment is on purpose and for a good reason.