Be

I get asked quite often, how do you do it all?

I don’t.

I find that in this season of my life, I simply do the very best that I can each and every day.

I’ve always been a type A over-achiever.  I put more pressure on myself than my mom, dad, grandparents, teachers or anyone else I ever encountered ever did.  I like to be really great at things, not fail and I used to try to be perfect.

I will say I have officially thrown my perfectionist hat out the window.  I have my daughter to thank for that.  My husband would tell me not to stress over things and to stop beating myself up, but I would roll my eyes and still meticulously plan out certain events, meals, get togethers, and try to create that picture perfect scene that laid out in my head.

This was before Pinterest people!!

I will say that the first time I realized I really did have the power to control my own mental attitude, was walking down the aisle to marry my husband.

The DJ played MY song when my bridesmaids starting walking out.  I may have screamed and dropped the F bomb while waiting next to my father and the poor wedding coordinator.  They both looked at me like—what are we to do? Stop him? Tell him to re-do?  But I simple paused, took a deep breath and put a smile on my face.  I knew that if I walked down the aisle with a bitchy look on my face, my fiancé would NEVER marry me.  So I took it in stride, realized it was out of my control, and that at the end of the day, no one would know that it was a mess up.  In the end, we all walked down to, “Lucky” by Jason Mraz. I can laugh about it now, but really that moment was a huge turning point in my mental thinking.

A few years later, along came our beautiful baby girl.  As much as I tried, there was no trying to get her to conform to what I wanted.  She slept when she wanted, ate when she wanted and eventually potty trained when she wanted.  God used her to really show me that I am not in control and that all of the stress I put on myself to try and control things, was really really bad.

A few more years go by, we add a baby boy.  I totally thought I had this mom thing figured out!  Turns out, baby boy was a total different experience than baby girl.  He had terrible reflux, I had to stop nursing him after 8 weeks and switch him to Nutramigen formula, and I don’t think he fully slept through the night until well after the first year. Funny how things work…

In the last 10 years I have been with my husband, I have learned so much about myself, life, being a wife, and eventually a mother.  I fully admit I DO NOT have this whole thing figured out, but I have learned to give myself a lot of grace.  I have learned to laugh at myself.  I learned to be more open to experiences, situations and let go of the ideas of what I want people to be, and just let them be who they are.  Accept them, or don’t. I have begun to embrace the chaos of my messes and though it be tough at times, view the chaos as a blessing.  I turn on the jazz music on the surround sound.  I tackle my to do list, one thing at a time. I stop to do something for me, to fill my cup.  Like blogging; right now there are mountains of laundry to be done, but my fingers needed to feel the keys for a few moments…

My life is filled with oops, and uh-ohs.  I just learn to do my best, try very hard to do it with a smile and save the worries and stressors for when I really need to.

My word this year is “Be.” (Yes, I am a huge dork and pick out a word for each year…) It’s a simple word but when I find myself getting out of alignment, uppity, stressed, or freaking out (probably for no reason) I try to quickly check myself and breathe so that I can just be.

…be in the moment

…be still

…be happy

…be healthy

…be joyful

…be confident

…be grateful

….be humble

…be helpful

…be aware

…be present

…just be.

Stress is SO bad for us, and the more we can become aware of our thoughts and shut them down before they take us down the rabbit hole of angst, the better we will be.

My top 5 tips for getting back into alignment

  1. Let go of expectations and accept where you are.
  2. Do something that makes you happy, self love.
  3. Get outside, preferably barefoot (weather permitting)
  4. Sign off social media for a bit.
  5. Acknowledge how you feel, but then let it go.

I also truly believe who we spend our time talking to, listening to, reading about, watching, helps us form our thoughts.  I am human, I love a good TV drama, but I also love a peaceful and happy life.  Just making small changes over time helps our overall mindsets so much!

Is there something you find yourself doing, to just be?

Valentine’s Day Guest Post

I’m so excited to have a good friend of mine Nikki, guest post for me today!! She put together a beautiful post about faith, love and marriage. She is a fantastic mama of two little girls and married to an amazing guy.  She’s definitely one of my faves and we lean on each other for mama support all the time!! Check her blog out over at My Life to Our Life.

Happy Valentine’s Day Friends!

Being today is Valentine’s Day I thought it would be fun to talk about marriage and what it means to Mr. Big Truck and myself.

Marriage is putting God first and our marriage second. I know that sounds off to some but it works for us. It means putting the other before our own needs just as Christ put the church before himself.

Ephesians 5:25-33 says  “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, …”

I means not letting anyone come between us.

Mark 10:9 says “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Marriage mens love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Marriage

1. the formal union of a man and woman, typically recognized by law, by which they become man and wife.

2. a combination or mixture of two or more elements.

To me marriage is a partnership for life. Marriage is work. Marriage is two people committing themselves to each other. But marriage also means being yourself. It means putting the dating walls down and not being afraid to show your spouse your “bad” side. It means unconditional love. It means showing your partner you’re not perfect and letting your partner accept your imperfections as they are. Marriage is trust. Marriage is having a partner in crime that is always going to have your back no matter what. It means having my best friend by my side through all of life’s ups and downs. Marriage means I know I am going home to the one persona who will always be happy to see me. Marriage means learning to say “I’m sorry.” It means learning to let go of control and letting someone else take the lead. It means pushing your spouse to be the best version of them self because its best for them. It means putting someone else’s needs before your own. It means supporting your spouse in whatever endeavors they choose to explore. It is nurturing a family. It means being faithful to the one you vowed to be with. Marriage means love and commitment.

Marriage is complicated, raw, tender long and giddy. It’s scary, exhausting, broken yet whole. In all marriage is amazing and one thing I know for sure I know I am so so happy to experience this with my love, Mr. Big Truck.

I also asked Mr. Big Truck what marriage means to him and this is what he had to say…

What does marriage mean to me? I’ve got so many thoughts and ideas on what it means to myself. Unfortunately I am not all that great at putting my thoughts into words, but what type of man would I be if I didn’t try? So I will give y’all a quick little rundown on what it means to me.
It means that I have found the woman I want to dedicate my life too. The woman who means the world to me. Two people who are able and willing to live for each other. Love each other through thick and thin. Walk the same path in life. Unconditional love. Two people who have the utmost respect for each other. Two best friends living a life of joy and love for one another. Growing old and building memories that will last a life time, not just for each other but for their family.  Being faithful and true to one another from the day you married to the end of time.
Ok so there you have a quick run down of some of the thoughts I have on what marriage means to me. Everyone has their own thoughts and opinion on what they think it means. But like I said, these are just a few of my own.
And because I thought it would be fun here is a little throwback to our wedding shoot on the beach in Cabo!

Water & Cleansing

Need inspiration to drink more water? Buy yourself a custom tumbler! My friend Rachel’s amazing!  I had her whip me up this pretty little one.

“When life hands you lemons, pray they are lulu.”

Check out her custom etsy shop, Simply Mama Boutique. Stay tuned in another blog post for a giveaway too!

I wrapped up my 10 day cleanse and I will 100% admit, it was SO darn tough!  Being super cold up here in NY, all I am craving are warm baked goods, pastas, and lots of hot lattés.   Was my cleanse a total flop?

No.

I actually think it was the perfect re-boot that my body needed.

  • I upped my water intake (we need 1/2 of our body weight in water at least!)
  • I upped my veggie intake
  • I stopped snacking mindlessly
  • I pretty much omitted sugary foods/drinks (I did cheat and have a soy green tea latté on Friday, my last day before taxes)
  • I ate more lean protein
  • I ate more real foods, not so much bars/shakes/aka processed junk
  • I worked out
  • My jeans are baggy again
  • I lost the bloat/extra flub around my midsection
  • I slept well
  • I had more energy
  • I only drank (wine) on Saturday night
  • I became more mindful of what I was eating

I didn’t lose any weight, but if I had measured inches I am sure that I lost some.  I am at a steady 135 and I am 5’7.  I am in between a 4/6.  My goal is to continue 80/20 eating.  I want to enjoy a latté when I’d like one, but not drink them daily.

I want to tone up and build more muscle, while enjoying delicious foods. My body seems to work best if I eat clean all day, and then dinner I can be a little flexible and enjoy a little pasta or cheese pizza.  I cannot do the all or nothing thing, it never works.

Next up I’m going to play around with intermittent fasting a bit more.  I am fascinated by it, and have several friends who swear by it.  Stay tuned!

I did notice the biggest difference when I started CHUGGING my water.  The fiber for sure helps flush out toxins, as does the cleanse tablets, but more than anything ladies and gentlemen, water, water, water!!!

Top 5 tips to drink more water:

  1.  Cute tumbler
  2. Figure out if you prefer water cold or room temp
  3. Use a straw (I don’t know why, but I always drink more with a straw!?)
  4. Add lemon or fruit to flavor
  5. Have water everywhere.  I have multiple cups going day/night.

February Style Drop

Rosé, please.

(Sounds so much better in French!)

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Each month we have new styles that are launched.

 

This month, since it’s the month of L-O-V-E our looks are romantic, whimsical and lots of feminine florals.  Not to mention, rose gold!!

Which are your favorites?!

 

I went with #1, the stunning 2-in-1 Audrey Statement Earrings.  You can wear them as statement pieces or just a stud.  I cannot wait to show them off to you!

This s Pavé Petal Ring is stunning and matching earrings will complete your look.

 

This adorable Peony Clutch will turn heads as you step out in style!

 

The hot “it bag” of the season is this stunning rose gold Marseilles Tote. 

Need a flowy romantic floral top? Look no further! The Addison top is the perfect flirty piece for your wardrobe.  Jeans and this top will keep you casual and pretty; dress up with a skirt or work pants.

Loving these looks?  Shop my e-boutique directly, or shoot me a message. I’d love to have you earn these adorable pieces for free!!  Even better, sign on as a stylist and shop these items at your own personal discount.

Currently {a link up}

 

Finishing: Super exciting, but prepping for our taxes.  I have to get them all organized! Owning our own real estate company is no joke! My water. I am bound and determined to drink as much H20 as I can, so I make myself finish each large Corkcicle of water! I’m also going to finish reading another book this week, the laundry (who am I kidding, that ish is never finished!) and my 10 day cleanse.

Subscribing:  I tried to unsubscribe from most things, as I don’t want to spend money if I don’t have to and I do not need any more “stuff.” However, I am on a reading kick, so I do have my monthly Audible account and I am trying out the Book of the Month club.  I heard that you can get a book before it’s released to the public sometimes!! Interested in checking that out? Here is my referral code! {here}

Wishlisting:  This adorable black top.  A new winter coat. These booties.   A new puppy! We actually go Thursday night to pick her out!! I’m thinking she’ll need these too!

Watching:  I don’t watch a ton of tv, but I am one show behind on Scandal, (what the what?!) and I still haven’t brought myself to watch the latest episode of This is Us.  I’m hoping that while I fold the PILES of laundry, I can catch up on these! I also watch a lot of You Tube. I find that it helps inspire me to, cook, clean, dress up, play with my makeup…basically there are you tube channels for everything!

Hearting:  All things pink, red, hearts and roses!! I finally pulled out my Valentine’s Decor and the kids had a ball playing with some Valentine’s day stuffed bears from years past. I’m also adoring my new blog, making new blogger friends, sticking with a health regime, keeping in touch with those whom I love, and spreading kindness wherever I can.

 

Linking up with Anne in Residence.

 

Weekending

Thursday

I kind of count Thursday as the weekend, only because I snuck out of the house for a bit! First I brought these two to the dentist.  Perfectly normal and healthy checkups.

After running a few errands, Joe and I met up for a quick lunch! I kept it cleanse friendly by getting some edamame, and sashimi.  I kept the soy sauce to a minimum and really loved on the lemon!

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After lunch I got a quick mani!

After that I did sneak up to the mall for a few new bras. My friend told me how amazing the non-underwire t-shirt bras from VS were, and man she was right.  What is it about a new bra that makes you just feel like a brand new woman?!

I also scooped up a new book and stopped into Old Navy for some new clothes for my ever growing kids.

Friday

I had a hair appointment at 10, so Joe brought Brooke to school, brought me to the salon, and then took Bradley on some errands to check on the houses.  They picked up Brooke from pre-k, came back to the salon so that Joe could get his hair done and get me.

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We tried out a yummy new Ramen place in the city and we all enjoyed! (no, it was not cleanse friendly–I gave most of my noodles to Joe, but I did enjoy the broth and it warmed us all up!

Right after nap time our big girl lost her first tooth!!

The tooth fairy came and left her two dollars.
She was so excited!

Saturday

I made sure to get my booty to the gym.  The kids love going to the Y, mostly for the “Mystery Cavern” because they can run, climb, play on mats, foam toys etc.

I did an upper body workout: shoulders, triceps and biceps.

I am obsessed with our Crush it Bag (back in stock in April!)

We had a date night at Char, one of our favorite restaurants in the city. I so badly meant to get a photo of the two of us, but all I have is this random shot he took of me. I just love the vibe in this place.  Dinner was phenomenal, the bubbly was fantastic and we thoroughly enjoyed a night of adult conversations!

Sunday

We laid really low, like really really low… no big Super Bowl parties, I didn’t cook a huge feast, we just kind of hung around and I’m not going to lie, it was glorious.

I totally paused my cleanse Saturday/Sunday.

I will be resuming my clean eating and the stricter regime today!

I saw this quote that one of my Stella sisters shared and I just thought it is so appropriate, especially for the month of February!

 

What was your favorite part of your weekend?